A colleague said to me one time, "They don't pay me to like the kids. They pay me to teach a lesson. The kids should learn it. I should teach it. They should learn it. Case closed."

　　一次有個同事跟我說， “我的職責(zé)不是喜歡那些孩子們。我的職責(zé)是教書。孩子們就該去學(xué)。我管教課，他們管學(xué)習(xí)。就是這么個理兒?！?/p>

　　Well, I said to her, "You know, kids don't learn from people they don't like."

　　然后，我就跟她說， “你知道，孩子們可不跟他們討厭的人學(xué)習(xí)?！?/p>

　　(Laughter) (Applause)

　　(笑聲)(掌聲)

　　She said, "That's just a bunch of hooey."

　　她接著說，“一派胡言?！?/p>

　　And I said to her, "Well, your year is going to be long and arduous, dear."

　　然后我對她說，“那么，親愛的，你這一年會變得十分漫長和痛苦?！?/p>

　　Needless to say it was. Some people think that you can either have it in you to build a relationship or you don't. I think Stephen Covey had the right idea. He said you ought to just throw in a few simple things, like seeking first to understand as opposed to being understood, simple things like apologizing. You ever thought about that? Tell a kid you're sorry, they're in shock.

　　事實也果真如此。有些人認(rèn)為一個人或者天生可以建立一種關(guān)系或者不具有這種能力。我認(rèn)為Stephen Covey(美國教育家)是對的。他說你只需要做一些簡單的事情，比如試著首先理解他人，而不是想要被理解，比如道歉。你想過嗎?跟一個孩子說你很對不起，他們都驚呆了。

　　I taught a lesson once on ratios. I'm not real good with math, but I was working on it. And I got back and looked at that teacher edition. I'd taught the whole lesson wrong. (Laughter)