As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.
瑪麗亞-羅賓森說(shuō)過(guò)：“沒(méi)有人可以回到過(guò)去重新開始，但每一個(gè)人都可以從現(xiàn)在開始，創(chuàng)造全新的未來(lái)?！?但是在你開始轉(zhuǎn)變之前，必須停止做那些阻礙你前行的事情。

Here are some ideas to get you started:
來(lái)看看不要再對(duì)自己做的15件事吧。

1. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
不要逃避問(wèn)題——要面對(duì)它們。但是，這并不容易，我們沒(méi)法立刻解決問(wèn)題。在遇到問(wèn)題時(shí)，我們會(huì)本能地心煩意亂、悲傷、痛苦、躊躇、情緒低落。 因?yàn)檫@就是生活的全部意義——隨著時(shí)間的推移，去面對(duì)問(wèn)題，然后去學(xué)習(xí)、適應(yīng)，從而解決問(wèn)題。通過(guò)這樣的方式，生活把我們塑造成了現(xiàn)在的樣子。

2. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.
不要欺騙自己。——在這個(gè)世界上，你可以對(duì)任何人說(shuō)謊，但是不能欺騙自己。只有在我們抓住機(jī)遇時(shí)，生活才能得以改善。而要想這樣，我們最先要嘗試的也是最難的，就是對(duì)自己誠(chéng)實(shí)。

3. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
不要總是把自己的需要放在后面。——人世間最痛苦的事情莫過(guò)于，愛(ài)別人愛(ài)得過(guò)深，在愛(ài)的過(guò)程中失去了自我，從而忘記了自己有多么特別。是的，我們要幫助他人；但是也要自助。如果你還沒(méi)有追隨自己的激情，還沒(méi)有做一些對(duì)自己來(lái)說(shuō)重要的事情，那么現(xiàn)在就開始做吧。

4. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
不要努力成為別人?！?/strong>在一個(gè)總想把你變成他人的世界中，做好自己是人生的一大挑戰(zhàn)?？偸怯腥吮饶憧蓯?ài)、比你聰明、比你年輕。但是他們都不是你。不要去改變來(lái)讓大家去喜歡你。做好你自己，會(huì)有對(duì)的人愛(ài)上真正的你。

5. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
不要沉迷于過(guò)去。——如果你一直沉迷于過(guò)去， 就無(wú)法開啟生活的新篇章。

6. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – No matter how things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
不要因?yàn)檫^(guò)去的錯(cuò)誤而自責(zé)。——無(wú)論事情錯(cuò)得有多么離譜，有一點(diǎn)可以肯定：錯(cuò)誤能幫助我們找到正確的人和事。我們都會(huì)犯錯(cuò)、遇到困難，甚至后悔過(guò)去的事情。但生活中發(fā)生的每件事情都會(huì)為還沒(méi)來(lái)到的那一刻做準(zhǔn)備。

7. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. Making progress involves risk.
不要只想不做。——不要想得太多，否則你會(huì)創(chuàng)造新的問(wèn)題。對(duì)情況進(jìn)行評(píng)估，然后果斷行動(dòng)。要想進(jìn)步，就要冒險(xiǎn)。

8. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
不要總是覺(jué)得自己還沒(méi)有準(zhǔn)備好。——當(dāng)機(jī)遇降臨時(shí)，沒(méi)有人會(huì)百分百完全準(zhǔn)備好。因?yàn)樯钪写蟛糠值臋C(jī)遇會(huì)使我們脫離習(xí)慣的舒適區(qū)，這也就意味著，一切在開始時(shí)我們不會(huì)感到很自在。

9. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
不要和別人競(jìng)爭(zhēng)。——不要擔(dān)心別人做得比你好。集中精力，每天打破自己的記錄。成功只是你和你自己之間的戰(zhàn)爭(zhēng)。

10. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
不要嫉妒他人?！?/strong>嫉妒實(shí)際上是在歷數(shù)別人的幸福，而不是自己的。問(wèn)問(wèn)自己：“什么東西別人都想要，而我已經(jīng)擁有了？”

11. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
不要重復(fù)做同樣的事情也不歇歇。——越是很忙的時(shí)候越要休息。如果你一直做同樣的事情，你會(huì)一直得到相同的結(jié)果。有時(shí)，你需要自己離遠(yuǎn)一點(diǎn)兒來(lái)把事情看清。

12. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
不要忽視美妙的小瞬間。——享受小事情，因?yàn)橛幸惶飚?dāng)你回顧過(guò)去時(shí)，你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)它們反而是大事兒。生活中最美妙的部分，是你向?qū)ψ约褐匾娜宋⑿r(shí)的那些瑣碎又難以形容的時(shí)刻。

13. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.
不如意時(shí)，不要假裝一切都好?！紶柕谋罎⒁参磭L不可。不要總是假裝堅(jiān)強(qiáng)，沒(méi)有必要去證明一切都好。你不要去想別人會(huì)怎么想，想哭就哭吧！流流淚對(duì)身體有好處。你越早這樣做，你就能越快微笑起來(lái)。

14. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
不要過(guò)度擔(dān)心。——擔(dān)心不會(huì)減輕明天的負(fù)擔(dān)，它只會(huì)減少今天的快樂(lè)。有一種方式可以判斷某件事情是不是值得自己仔細(xì)思考：“這件事一年以后還重要嗎？三年后呢？五年后呢？” 如果答案是否定的，那么它根本就不值得你去煩惱。

15. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
不要關(guān)注你不想發(fā)生的事情。——關(guān)注你想發(fā)生的事情。每個(gè)成功故事的首頁(yè)都寫著積極思考。如果你每天早晨醒來(lái)，都想著今天生活中會(huì)發(fā)生的好事兒，多加關(guān)注，你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)事實(shí)確實(shí)如此。