One mom is inspiring parents across the internet with this powerful letter that she wrote to her five-year-old daughter.
一位母親給她五歲的女兒寫了一封頗有影響力的信，她通過互聯(lián)網(wǎng)用這封信激勵(lì)著各位父母。

The letter goes on to list various things that her daughter shouldn’t do, but instead of being restrictive , the purpose of the letter is to empower her daughter. “I want to raise a daughter who is as confident as she is kind, who isn’t afraid to speak her mind and work hard to make the world a better place,” said Toni.
這封信列出了各種各樣她的女兒不應(yīng)該做的事情，不過這封信不是為了制約她的女兒而是為了增加她的自主權(quán)?！拔蚁胱屛业呐畠撼蔀橐粋€(gè)善良又自信，不懼于說出自己的想法，為了使世界變得更好而努力的人，”托尼說道。

To my daughter,
致我的女兒，

Don’t apologize when someone else bumps into you. Don’t say ‘sorry to be such a pain.’ You’re not a pain. You’re a person with thoughts and feelings who deserves respect.
別人撞到你的時(shí)候，不用道歉。不用說“抱歉給你帶來了麻煩?！蹦悴皇且环N麻煩。你是一個(gè)有思想、有感覺且應(yīng)該被尊重的人。

Don’t make up reasons as to why you can't go out with a guy you don't wanna go out with. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. A simple ‘no thanks’ should be acceptable.
你不想跟某個(gè)人約會(huì)的時(shí)候，你不用編造無法跟他約會(huì)的理由。你不需要向任何人解釋。一個(gè)簡(jiǎn)簡(jiǎn)單單的“不，謝謝”就可以了。

Don't overthink what you eat in front of people. If you're hungry, eat, and eat what you want. If you want pizza, don't get a salad just because other people are around. Order the damn pizza.
當(dāng)你在人前吃東西的時(shí)候，不用想太多。如果你餓了，那就去吃點(diǎn)你想吃的東西。如果你想吃披薩，不用因?yàn)槠渌艘苍诰忘c(diǎn)一份沙拉。點(diǎn)披薩就好。

Don't keep your hair long to make someone else happy.
不用為了讓某個(gè)人高興就留長發(fā)。

Don't wear a dress if you don't want to.
如果你不想穿裙子那就不要穿。

Don’t stay home because you don't have anyone to go out with. Take yourself out. Have experiences by yourself and for yourself.
不要因?yàn)闆]人約你出去就呆在家里。自己出去逛逛。你可以為了自己獨(dú)自去體驗(yàn)一下。

Don't hold back your tears. Crying means you're feeling something that needs to get out. It's not a weakness. It’s being human.
不用強(qiáng)忍著淚水。哭泣意味著你有需要發(fā)泄的情緒。這不是一個(gè)弱點(diǎn)。人都會(huì)這樣。

Don’t smile because someone told you to.
不用因?yàn)槟橙俗屇阈δ憔托Α?/em>

Don’t be afraid to laugh at your own jokes.
就算是你自己講的笑話，也不用不敢笑。

Don’t say ‘yes’ to be polite. Say ‘no’ because it’s your life.
不要為了禮貌而說“好的”，因?yàn)檫@是你的人生，所以你可以說“不”。

Don’t hide your opinions. Speak up and speak loudly. You should be heard.
不用隱藏你的觀點(diǎn)。你可以大聲的說出來。你應(yīng)該讓別人了解你的想法。

Don’t apologize for being who you are. Be brave and bold and beautiful. Be unapologetically you.
不用為做自己而感到抱歉。做一個(gè)無畏、果敢又出色的人。理直氣壯地做你自己。

Some people were quick to agree with her letter.
她的信很快就得到了一些人的認(rèn)可。

我認(rèn)為我們多數(shù)成年女性也需要采納這些建議！

這讓我想起了奧普拉說過的我最喜歡的一句話：“‘不’是一個(gè)完整的句子，你可以在必要的時(shí)候使用它?！蔽以?jīng)很喜歡自己去看電影或者與最好的伙伴“一本書”共進(jìn)晚餐。

What do you think?
你覺得呢？

（翻譯：Dlacus）