1. 眼光狹隘

1. Tunnel Vision : The tendency to focus only on the immediate crisis or sore spot. Under stress, things look worse or more complex than they really are.
1. 眼光狹隘：傾向于只關(guān)注眼前的危機(jī)、或是一個(gè)單獨(dú)“點(diǎn)”。在壓力之下，事情會(huì)看起來比它們本身糟糕和復(fù)雜。

The solution
解決有道

Perspective : Ask if it will matter in 6 months. Ask what else is going on? How did I create this situation and, in an ideal world, what would I like to do about it?
看開點(diǎn)：?jiǎn)枂栕约哼@個(gè)問題半年后是否還會(huì)存在？問問自己還有其他什么沒有注意到？是怎么讓自己走到這一步的、而在理想情況下我會(huì)怎么解決它？

2. 恐懼

2. Fear : The anxiety or terror that things will go badly, that we will fail or be embarrassed.
2. 恐懼：擔(dān)心事情會(huì)變?cè)?，或者自己?huì)失敗、蒙羞。

The solution
解決有道

Humor and Curiosity : Modern life has very few saber-tooth tigers . The situation is rarely life or death. Ask, What's the worst that can happen? What's the best? What can I learn? What would I do if I had no fear?
幽默與好奇心：現(xiàn)代社會(huì)已經(jīng)沒有劍齒虎啦——就是說不管你的困難怎么麻煩，也不至于到要死人的地步吧？所以問問看：事情最壞會(huì)變成什么樣子？最好呢？我能從中學(xué)到些什么？如果我不再恐懼會(huì)怎么做？

3.迷茫

3. Confusion : The sense of being lost or unclear about our direction. The sense that we don't know our own priorities anymore.
3. 迷茫：一種“迷失”的感覺、找不到自己的方向、看不到自己的優(yōu)勢(shì)所在。

The solution
解決有道

Responsible Choices : Choose your values and priorities and set your own path. Your life is yours. Check your moral compass, pick a direction and do something extraordinary!
負(fù)責(zé)任地做選擇：了解自己的價(jià)值和優(yōu)勢(shì)、選一條自己的路。你的人生在你手中。問問自己的良心、選一個(gè)方向、做出點(diǎn)與眾不同的事兒來！

4.負(fù)罪感

4. Guilt : The belief that we have hurt or failed or sinned and deserve punishment . Guilt is either accurate, because sometimes we do behave badly, or it is false and simply an illusion.
4. 負(fù)罪感：相信我們傷害了他人、讓別人失望了、或是做了什么錯(cuò)事、應(yīng)該受到懲罰。負(fù)罪感有可能是真實(shí)的：因?yàn)橛械臅r(shí)候我們確實(shí)做得不好；也有可能不真實(shí)、只是一種自己的幻覺。

The solution
解決有道

If we have transgressed, we must make restitution, ask forgiveness, learn from our error and move on . If it is false guilt, set it down as an unnecessary and irrational burden.
如果我們真的做錯(cuò)事兒，那就必須補(bǔ)償、請(qǐng)求原諒并且從錯(cuò)誤中學(xué)習(xí)、繼續(xù)向前走。但如果負(fù)罪感是假的，那就要放下這個(gè)不必要、也不理性的包袱。

5.羞愧

5. Shame : The belief that we are worth-less than others, that we have a terrible, incurable flaw . It is not that we have done something wrong (guilt), but that we are bad or wrong.
5. 羞愧：相信自己不如其他人、自己有什么可怕的、無法糾正的缺陷。這種感覺不是因?yàn)樽约鹤鲥e(cuò)事（這種叫負(fù)罪感），而是因?yàn)橄嘈抛约喝撕軌?、不好?/span>

The solution
解決有道

Clear, rational thinking : Everyone has behaved badly, but no one was created badly! Any flaws only serve to make you stronger, more heroic or more compassionate toward others.
清晰和理性地思考：每個(gè)人都可能做錯(cuò)事兒、但沒有人生來就是壞人！任何缺點(diǎn)都是為了把你變得更強(qiáng)、更有氣概、或?qū)ζ渌烁咄樾摹?/span>

6. 孤獨(dú)

6. Loneliness : The belief that no one loves us, that no one cares and we must desperately cling to anyone who finds us attractive or acceptable. This creates dependency, not intimacy.
6. 孤獨(dú)：相信沒有人愛自己，沒人關(guān)心自己。遇到什么人能接受自己、對(duì)自己有興趣就死抓住不放。要知道這樣的行為導(dǎo)致的是依賴性、不是親密感。

The solution
解決又道

Accurate Self-Assessment : Not everyone will love you, but many people will if they meet you, get to know you, and spend time working/playing along side you.
準(zhǔn)確的自我評(píng)價(jià)：不是每個(gè)人都會(huì)愛你，但也有很多人會(huì)的：只要他們遇到你、了解你、和你一起工作、和你一起玩。

7. 怨念

7. Resentment : Holding anger and refusing to move beyond real or imagined mistreatment in the past . Some people spend their whole lives as "victims", nurturing a terrible event in their past.
7. 怨念：憋著一股氣、拒絕向前看、困在過去發(fā)生在自己身上的不公正待遇里（這種不公正不盡真實(shí)）。有些人一生都在扮演“受害者”，死抓住過去的壞事不放。

The solution
解決有道

Let go! Life is not fair and people do not always behave well or kindly. Use your trauma to make you wise, kind, gentle, and strong . Holding anger will not work.
放下吧！生命本來就不公平、人們也不總都善良親切。用你的傷害讓自己變得智慧、善良、文雅和堅(jiān)強(qiáng)。憤怒什么也不能解決。

8. 自我懷疑

8. Self-Doubt : The repeated, endless questioning of your own abilities, opinions or actions . The inability to take a stand, to act boldly, or to follow-through.
8. 自我懷疑：重復(fù)、持續(xù)地質(zhì)疑自己的能力、觀點(diǎn)和行動(dòng)。無法做抉擇、勇敢執(zhí)行或跟進(jìn)。

The solution
解決有道

Action! Think clearly, then take action and follow-through : Start small, but do it! You are the world's expert on your life! Use your wisdom to live well.
行動(dòng)起來！想清楚、就行動(dòng)起來并持續(xù)下去：從小處著手，但要做下去！對(duì)你的生活來說你就是世界級(jí)的專家！用你的智慧讓自己過得更好吧！

9. 固執(zhí)

9. Stubbornness : The refusal or inability to re-assess a situation, change your mind, or admit you were wrong.
9. 固執(zhí)：拒絕或無法重新評(píng)估一個(gè)狀況、無法改變決定或承認(rèn)自己錯(cuò)了。

The solution
解決有道

Wisdom and Humility : Only a fool stays on a course that is headed for disaster! Search for new and better information, remain flexible, open and creative . When the situation changes, adjust accordingly and set a new course.
智慧和謙遜：只有傻瓜才會(huì)堅(jiān)持站在通向毀滅的道路上呢！搜尋一些新的、更好的信息，保持靈活性、開放性和創(chuàng)造性。隨著情況作出相應(yīng)調(diào)整，并選擇新的解決方法。

10. 癮

10. Addiction : Humans become addicted to drugs, but we also become addicted to our jobs, our opinions or our lifestyle . We can be addicted to people and need them rather than love them.
10. 癮：人類已經(jīng)對(duì)各種藥物上癮了，但我們同時(shí)也變得對(duì)工作、對(duì)自己的意見或是生活方式上癮。我們也可能對(duì)“人”上癮，需要他們多過愛他們。

The solution
解決有道

Take a vacation! Periodically, walk in someone else's shoes. Break your habits, re-arrange your schedule, delegate those things that only you can do "right" . Use habits and traditions to set you free, don't let habits enslave you!
給自己放個(gè)假吧！每隔一段時(shí)間，就試試其他人的生活方式。打破自己的習(xí)慣、重新安排計(jì)劃、把自己手頭的事兒交給其他人。要讓習(xí)慣和傳統(tǒng)給自己自由、而不是奴役你自己！