I’m a people pleaser. It’s hard for me to say "no" to people who ask for something -- despite a reluctance inside of me. This has gotten me into trouble more than a few times in life and especially in business. Time is precious and slips by quickly but there is also no lack of things that have to get done in an entrepreneur's life.
我總懂得如何取悅別人，對于我來說，我無法對別人的要求說“不”——盡管我的內(nèi)心是拒絕的。就是這種性格讓我在生活中遭遇到不少麻煩，尤其是做生意的時候。時間很珍貴，它也很快速地流逝，但是企業(yè)家的生涯也不缺乏需要完成的事情。

For 12 years, I took life a day at a time. I had a dream but no goals for making it real. I just woke up each day hoping for something more. In 2011, I had had enough and began chasing my dream of starting a lifestyle business. This meant more work on top of a service business that took 60-80 hours of my week. It didn’t take long for me to realize that something had to give. I had to learn how to say no to open up room for the things that were important. Seeing how much time and energy was freed by saying no, I started looking at all the other areas of my life. Here are six things I said no to. Saying no helped me live a much better life and create the kind of business that I love.
曾經(jīng)有長達(dá)12年的時間，我每天都要犧牲自己生命的一段時間。我有夢想，但是沒有實現(xiàn)它的目標(biāo)。我只會每天醒來希望更多。在2011年，我覺得受夠了，開始追逐我的夢想，開啟一段居家生意之旅。這就意味著在服務(wù)業(yè)生意上我需要完成更多的工作，每周花上60-80個小時。沒過多久，我意識到有些事情必須要付出。我不得不學(xué)會如何說“不”，為重要的事情騰出空間。了解到拒絕以后所騰出的時間與能量是如此之多，我開始察看我生活中的其他方面。下面的6件事情是我拒絕過的。拒絕幫助我過上一個更舒適的生活，并且創(chuàng)辦了我所喜愛的生意。

1. Other people’s baggage.
1. 別人的包袱。

Life is hard for all of us. Sometimes it’s easier to push your baggage onto someone else, maybe even without you realizing it. If you are trying to make changes in your life and someone reacts a certain way because of their baggage, it’s up to you to say "no". You don’t need any more drama in your life. For me, this meant ignoring some people on social media and purging negative people from my life. It meant ending the business partnerships that were not in alignment with the direction I was taking my business.
生活總會折騰人。有時候你把自己的包袱丟給別人是相當(dāng)容易的事情，也許你甚至不會意識到。如果你正嘗試改變生活中的某些方面，而某人由于他們的包袱，采取某種回應(yīng)方式，那么你具有說“不”的權(quán)利。你的生活不需要任何額外的戲劇性效果。對于我來說，這就意味著在社交媒體上無視一些人，清除生命中那些負(fù)面的人。這意味著結(jié)束那些與我的生意方向不一致的商務(wù)人際關(guān)系。

2. Situations that I knew would make me angry.
2. 那些讓我生氣的情況。

There are things in life that you know you don’t want to do. For years, I just rolled with it. I went to gatherings and hung out with people who I knew would make me angry. I got on "get-to-know-you" calls with entrepreneurs who were all talk and no action. I entered into collaborations with business owners that weren't serious. When I said enough and stopped, it felt like a weight was lifted off of my shoulders. It freed my mind and business and helped me focus.
生活中你總會遇到一些你不想去做的事情。有許多年，我都湊合著適應(yīng)它。我參加各種聚會，與那些讓我不爽的人打交道。我應(yīng)邀參加那些夸夸其談毫無行動的企業(yè)家們的“初次見面”聚會。我和那些不認(rèn)真的企業(yè)所有人建立聯(lián)系。當(dāng)我說“夠了”并停下來的時候，我感覺就像是拿下了肩膀上的重?fù)?dān)。釋放我的心靈，解救我的生意，幫助我專注到重要的事情上。

3. A business that I absolutely hated.
3. 一盤讓我絕對會討厭的生意。

I had a service business in the vendor industry for 12 years and hated it. I felt stuck and believed that someone like me -- a high school dropout -- couldn’t do better. In 2011, I said "no" more and worked hard for four years to make my dream of being a global lifestyle entrepreneur a reality. I now wake up loving what I get to do for work and traveling the world. Saving no led to happier days.
我曾經(jīng)在供應(yīng)行業(yè)經(jīng)營了12年服務(wù)生意，我當(dāng)時很討厭它。我感覺自己被困住了，也相信有人像我一樣——一名高中輟學(xué)生——無法辦得更好了。在2011年，我說“不”的頻率變多了，然后辛勤工作了4年，讓我成為全球居家企業(yè)家的夢想成為了現(xiàn)實。如今，我早上醒來，愛著自己的工作，環(huán)游全世界。學(xué)會拒絕讓我過上更幸福的生活。

4. Unhealthy habits that felt good.
4. 那些感覺很棒的不健康習(xí)慣。

I love food. I said yes to junk food and no to healthier choices. This, as you can imagine, led to major weight gain. At one point, I was 193 pounds overweight. I started saying no to unhealthy choices and started exercising, I've lost 121 pounds so far this year. Today, I have more energy, focus and confidence. Life is better. I wake up ready to work on my business. I feel great when I travel for consulting presentations at multinational corporations.
我喜歡吃東西。我很喜歡垃圾食品，討厭健康食品。這么來說，你可以想象得到，就會導(dǎo)致明顯的增肥。有一度，我超重193磅。然后我開始對不健康的食品說“不”，并開始鍛煉，然后這一年以來我已經(jīng)減去121磅了。如今，我有更多能量，專注力更好，更有自信。生活也過得更美好了。我醒來之后就已經(jīng)為我的工作做好了準(zhǔn)備。當(dāng)我去旅行參與跨國企業(yè)的咨詢師展示會時，我的感覺非常棒。

5. Toxic relationships.
5. 有毒的人際關(guān)系。

Purging negative people from my life and saying no to what they tried to project into my life led to relief and happiness. These relationships included romantic relationships, friendships and business connections. It was hard, but I had to say no. Toxic people will keep you off track and make your life unenjoyable. Purge negativity from your life and business whenever it’s possible.
清除生命中的負(fù)面人群，拒絕他們試圖投射到我生活中的東西，讓我感到如釋重負(fù)與幸福滿滿。這些人際關(guān)系包括情侶關(guān)系，朋友關(guān)系還有商務(wù)伙伴關(guān)系。雖然這是很困難的事情，但是我不得不拒絕。有毒的人們會讓你脫離軌道，讓你的生活一點都不美好。請在有必要的時候清除生活和生意中的負(fù)面能量。

6. Holding onto the past.
6. 沉湎于過去。

I had a messed up childhood that involved physical and mental abuse. I chose to be homeless at 17 instead of continuing to be beaten with lamp cords. The demons from my past threatened to destroy me as I grew into an adult. I had to let go. I had to say no a lot more. I had to forgive to begin the healing process. I don’t know what you have or are facing. I do know that to heal, you have to let go.
我的童年一塌糊涂，充滿著身體與心理的折磨。在17歲的時候我決定離家出走，而不是繼續(xù)留在那里被人用電線毆打。過去生活中的那些惡魔威脅著我，妨礙我成長成為大人。我不得不放下這些事情。我還得多拒絕它們。我必須寬恕，才能開啟我的治愈療程。我不知道你不得不面對或者正在面對的是什么，我只知道想要治愈，你必須放下過去。

Just because you’re saying no right now doesn’t mean you’ll have to say no forever. Life has seasons, and some are busier than others. The point is to make sure you’re doing the things you want to do and that lead to the kind of life and business you want.
現(xiàn)在僅僅說“不”并不意味著你總是拒絕。生命有四季，有時快樂，有時艱難。重點在于你要確定自己正在做著你想做的事情，并且能夠過上自己想過的生活，做著自己想做的生意。

Don’t let other people’s motives make decisions for you. This is your life. This is your business. You get to decide. Say no to things that don’t make sense for you. Say no to things that don’t feel right to you. Trust your intuition. You know whether or not you want to do something. Don’t be pressured into saying yes.
不要讓他人的動機為你做決定。這是你自己的生活，這是你自己的生意。你要自己做決定。對那些沒有用處的事情要說不。對那些你感到不對勁的事情說不。相信你的直覺。你知道自己想不想做某件事。不要迫于壓力去順從。

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